Learn to live, not just cope
Helping you through all stages of your stoma.
Neuro Linguistic Programmer and Life Coach
Su Dave
What is Get Guts?
My background
First and foremost I suffered for 30 years with uncontrolled complex Crohn's disease until I was forced to have a permanent stoma.
Before surgery, what kept me going was the hope that the next new drug would be the miracle I had been waiting for, but it never was. Year after year I went through pain and embarrassment, until finally I had no choice but to have the dreaded bag. I thought my life would be over having a stoma, instead my life began again. These days nothing stops me, both physically and mentally. After embracing my new life I was shocked at how many people just could not accept their stomas and so re-trained in NLP so I could help others become the best version of themselves. This gave me the knowledge to be able to guide other people into not only accepting their stomas but uncover a whole new life.
I also now run a free independent Stoma Support Group in Devon .
My philosophy
There is no such thing as can't. We can all do anything we wish to do, we just need to learn the appropriate skills to be able to achieve it.
The only thing that can stop you is YOU.
My Services
I am a qualified NLP coach which means I shake up the way people see the world and themselves, by the use of a series of techniques and language.
Can you relate to any or most of these statements?
"I will never have the confidence to leave my house again".
"I can't handle the thought of my bag leaking or bursting in public and everyone looking at me".
"I can't bear to look at my stoma, it makes me feel sick".
"My partner or family are never going to feel the same way about me again".
"I can't sleep now, as I worry I will leak all over my bed, partner or pet".
"I hate (or will hate) my stoma and myself and nothing anyone says will change my mind".
Where else you might see me!
Motivational speaking
After my surgery I changed from a shy wallflower to someone who feels right at home public speaking. I have spoken in front of large groups of medical, hospital and pharmaceutical personal. I am always happy to consider motivational talks. Please just contact me.
Stoma support group
I was asked to start a free support group in East Devon by the stoma nurses. We meet once a month and discuss all aspects of living with a stoma. One thing I do not encourage is members feeling sorry for each other. I use NLP to demonstrate to the group how they can alter their way of thinking and keep positive. This has lead to the group undertaking a Jurassic coast challenge in September 2024 to raise money for the stoma department in Exeter hospital and also so they can show the world how far they have come.
The Get Guts Jurassic Coast Walk
When and Where
The walk will take place on 7th September 2024 along the South West Coastal Path starting in Seaton (East Devon) and ending at the RNLI boat station in Exmouth (Devon). 20 miles in total.
For what reason
My Stoma support group wish to show the world that having a stoma doesn't stop you doing anything and also to raise money for the Stoma department of RD&E.
Who can take part
Anyone of any age who either has a stoma or family or friend of someone living with a stoma and would like to raise some money for this great department.
Fitness Challenge
Fitness training will begin 16 weeks before the Event Day and all training schedules will be emailed out to you.
Who will be walking
People living with stomas, their family and friends but also the stoma nurses from RD&E Exeter hospital and some of the colorectal surgeons . We will also be joined by The Royal Marines .
How do you donate
If you are unable to walk but would like to make a donation to this amazing challenge please click the link below.
If you feel this is a challenge you would like to join in with, then email me on the "Join us"button
How to contact me
On-line consultations available and also public speaking events.
Please contact me for an appointment, as I am flexible with my working hours.
"When I got in touch, I was in a downward spiral. It's a common trait if I get stressed and everything feels out of control. Normally I would eventually hit rock bottom, have a meltdown and pick myself up, but this time I wanted to take over and not let myself get there. Su was my saviour".
Alex, Scotland 38yr
